So my husband and I have been together for 9 years now.
It’s so crazy to think about that.
I’ts kinda like 1/3 of my life.
9 years ago this week, we kissed.
I was on Spring Break in Israel.
I was 20 going on 21.
I had known him my whole life, and had a crush on him since I was 10.
So to kiss him was like crossing an item off of my bucket list.
We had an amazing 2 weeks together, but then I had to fly home to New York.
I thought about him a lot.
I felt that we had a deep connection and that the only reason that we weren’t together was because of the distance.
I guess I was right- my intuition is usually spot on.
I made arrangements to fly back to Israel that summer.
Within my first week back to Israel, we were living together.
We’ve been together ever since.
Sometimes I hate him.
Sometimes he HATES me.
Like HATE HATE.
Though we love each other with the same passion.
At first, I thought I had made a mistake marrying him.
I mean, I was so young(23) and he was only my second boyfriend.
I never did the things that I thought I would do:
Live in an apartment with friends
Be single in Manhattan
Go abroad with friends
Go out with more guys
But at the end of the day- that doesn’t really matter.
I found my husband early on in life.
That means I found my partner in crime at a younger age.
He keeps me grounded.
I help him dream.
So what if he doesn’t acknowledge my birthday or buy me a present -he will on the other hand be watching our kids this year for 4 days while mommy is off to Paris with her friends- celebrating her 30th birthday!
The other day i was laying on the couch and he caressed my hair- which btw never happens- we never have the time, or energy.
He told me that when he drops me off every morning at the train station- he looks at me while I walk away and is so proud that I am his wife.
And I didn’t have anything sarcastic to say (which is so unlike me)
It made me smile.
Sometimes I need to remember that we are a couple first, and then parents.
Do you often forget that you are a couple first and foremost? What do you do to nurture your relationships?