Yesterday I got in touch with a friend who has been MIA lately. I haven’tseenher since January of this year when her and her husband came to our house for dinner. This dinner was especially important to me since my life was so chaotic at the time with the girls never sleeping. I wanted to feel normal again- like an adult, so I invited them over to a large dinner.
This couple was just so adorable. I have only known them for 2.5 years, but it’s not everyday that you meet a couple that you and your significant other are compatible with.
They were from two different worlds. She was born and raised in France, but her family is from Morocco. She is Muslim, so she multi-cultural. She met her husband in Ibiza. He was from New York and comes from an Italian-American family. They were so different, yet made so much sense together. It seemed like their differences just added to their compatibility. Her husband even agreed to marry her in Morocco at a Moroccan themed wedding- which if you don’t know- is VERY elaborate. He came into the ceremony galloping on a horse. There are many costume changes. His family and friends all flew out there for the festivities.
(Not them pictured above)
And then yesterday she told me that they are divorcing.
I was in shock.
She says that after 7 years together, they just didn’t “Love each other anymore”… Those words bothered me. I mean, to just throw away a marriage because you fell out of love? I believe that everyone eventually falls out of love. Being “in love” doesn’t last. Love does. Respect does.
What makes us different than them, you know?
Am I “in love” with my husband?
No- but I love him.
I support him.
I respect him.
I think he is a wonderful father.
But do I get butterflies in my stomach when I see him (Like i used to)?
I think marriage becomes mundane. You are with the person for many years-you spend every day with them. There is no more excitement, no more je ne se qua.
Like Chr*s Rock says – if marriage is good, it’s boring
“Married and Bored- Single and Lonely”
It really is those two options isn’t it?
So they are divorcing.
A young couple: so in love.
They didn’t have children yet, so I guess that’s a good thing.
But when I hear about that- it worries me.
I mean, what differentiates those who have fallen “out of love” with those who take the step to get divorced because of it?
What do you think?