My old boss (the position I am about to leave) asked me how she should handle the situation (if it were to arise) if my new boss gives her a call and asks her whether or not she was aware that I was pg before I got the new job. How rude! She tried to get the information out of me!
First of all, I have not confirmed my pg to my old boss. She knows that I had to undergo IVF, because of the days that I was missing, and she knew I had problems conceiving. But since the news broke on Friday, I have not told her. I choose not to. I don’t want to go around screaming it on the rooftops yet. This is private for me now.
And secondly, why would it come up? I will not be telling my new boss until I am at least 3 months along. Besides, I interviewed for the new position months before the pg, so just because I chose to do IVF does that make me any different than someone that it accidentally happened to? I also got my BTP the day *after* I got the job.
I told my boss that it shouldn’t come up at all because I will only discuss it in the future with my new boss if the situation arises. I had then went on to say that all the IVF information that I had told her was off the record ( and she knew that from the start!). She said she was just wondering and she didn’t know if I was going to tell my new boss from the start about the pg. I told her to say that she knows nothing (which she doesn’t- nothing was confirmed) and that it should never be mentioned- at all.
I got so mad!
Why is she trying to ruin this for me? I need this job. I need the money.
And truthfully, it is no longer her business.